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WEEK SEVEN OMER MATERIALS
Each week, we focus on topics oriented on middah in the way that Tomer Devorah indicates, as such:
Malkhut - Humility by Alan Morinis
Tomer Devorah says:
How should a person train himself to acquire the quality of malchut? First of all, one should not be proud in one’s heart because of all that is their’s, but should behave constantly like a destitute person, standing before one’s Creator like a pauper begging and offering supplication. Even one who is wealthy should train oneself to behave in this attitude by considering that none of their possessions are attached to them and that one requires the mercies of heaven at all times, for all one has is the bread one eats. One should humble their heart and afflict oneself, especially at the time of prayer, for this is a very effective aid.
Malchut means “majesty” and refers to the way that Godliness is revealed to all. Humility is how we, as individuals, make room for the expression of our own Godliness.
KABBALAH - EXERCISE OR ACTION
Because humility means “occupying your rightful space,” there will be people for whom the practice will be to step back and shrink a bit, while for others, the exercise is one of stepping up and speaking up. It all depends on the place one is starting and their potential for growth.
For the person tending to the arrogant end of the spectrum, the practice is to set a time-period in which you will reduce the amount of space you occupy in every realm you can think of. This could involve determining that for one week you will do all or some of the following:
- Wear less colorful or eye-catching clothing (and note that a man’s tie can be as much a call for attention as a woman’s boots)
- Wear shoes with soft soles and heels that won’t call attention
- Sit toward the back of the room and not the front
- Never be the first one to respond to a question or issue
For the person tending to the excessively humble end of the spectrum, the practice is to set a time-period in which you will do exactly the opposite practice:
- Wear colorful or eye-catching clothing (including that bright tie and/or dramatic boots)
- Wear shoes with hard soles and heels that will call attention as you click down the hall
- Sit toward the front of the room and not the back
- Try to be the first one to respond to a question or issue
CHESHBON HA'NEFESH OR ACCOUNTING OF THE SOUL
For your evening journaling, reflect on the following questions:
- When did I encounter the middah of humility today, whether in its presence or its absence, whether in me or in another person?
- Under what circumstances and with whom, did I manifest too much, too little or just the right balance of humility? Did someone else?
It’s important at the beginning to just reflect on your actions without excessive judgment.