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Avi Fertig, Director of Mussar

Kallah XX, our 20th annual gathering, and the third online Kallah, for Mussar study and practice is scheduled for Sunday, January 29 - Tuesday, January 31. 

The theme is “Merging into One,” an exploration of Love / Ahava. Love is what makes life worth living. We sense this deep within our souls and yearn to cultivate loving relationships. In recent years we have suffered from isolation due to the pandemic, disharmony in our communities, disruptive politics even in our families, and lives of increasing loneliness. Too often, we feel disconnected from others and even from ourselves.

In Hebrew, the word Ahava / Love shares the same numerical value of thirteen as the word Echad / One. How can we feel more connected? How can we draw closer to others, to ourselves, and to The Divine?

The study and practice of Mussar is a personal and individual journey best done in community, through connecting with others on the path.

Our theme of “Merging into One” is designed to be dynamic and practical, with our focus on the process and pathway. The Kallah program includes extraordinary Mussar teachers from around the world and will be full of opportunities to connect with others on this meaningful and joyful journey.

Our prayer is that those who have attended the Kallah in past years will join with many who are new to the experience to create a holy community, exploring together what it takes to merge into one, with ourselves, one another, and the Divine.

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Share this poster with your organization to invite them to experience the Jewish spiritual tradition of Mussar, to grow their own experience of love in their lives, and to share the joy of a welcoming community.

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רֵעִים אֲהוּבִים - Rei’im Ahuvim - Beloved Friends

These sponsors made it possible for many people, new to the Kallah, to attend.

We are grateful for these generous donors.

Sammy Alzofon has donated a Kallah Scholarship in the name of Judah Rosen, z"l, a beloved Chaver who recently passed.

Judith Golden has also contributed generously to the Kallah Scholarship fund to honor those inspired to join us in love.

We also received two very generous anonymous sponsorships.

Kathy Jacobs


Kathy (R) is pictured with her sister Kerri Schellenberg. "We are the oldest and youngest of 4 sisters and 4 brothers. We are scattered across the United States and Okinawa." 

I support the Kallah because Mussar makes me happy. I read Alan’s Seeking Everyday Holiness, the Jewish Spiritual Path of Mussar and went to my first Kallah the same year, joined TMI, and went on to organize an adult education group to read and discuss the book. I was happy to find a path that focused on values and right action. That happiness has grown the more I study Mussar. The Kallah was so powerful for my introduction to Mussar, I want to support another person’s opportunity to deepen their experience as I did. - Kathy Jacobs

Irv and Ellen Robinson


Ellen and Irv Robinson are pictured with their grandson, Cameron, who began 5th grade this fall.

It is important for us to support the work of The Mussar Institute in many ways, and we are especially grateful to find that teens and young adults can now study Mussar with us. We are happy to help open the gates of Mussar to people who haven't yet experienced it. - Irv Robinson

Sandy and Barbara Greenstein

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Sandy and Barbara are pictured with their daughter Leah & son-law Neal, her children Enzo and Gia, and his parents, Paul and Barbara from Boston.

Love is what makes life worth living. I am blessed to be able to stretch my budget to contribute and assist the opportunity for others, to experience the connections and loving relationships I have cultivated by attending the TMI Kallahs and cultivating their own. - Sandy Greenstein

Ken and Sandy Birenbaum

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As my years of Mussar study and practice grow, so does my sense of being blessed. Becoming a Rei'im Ahuvim is my way of paying it forward.

Jerry Schermer

Jerry Schermer's Family
Here is my family that is filled with love.
The Kallah is a special way to be with our Mussar family.  Judy and I are honored to help support this year's event.

Steve Goldberg

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Heather Westendarp

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I love looking at everyone's photos, especially since we aren't meeting in person. So, I hunted and found something really hilarious of my family on one of
Our wonderful road trips.
My parents
And siblings behind bars.
I don't know how I will top this one next year!
Many blessings filled with love to all the Mussar Community.
Your fellow seeker,
Heather Westendarp
Heather is the child in the white glasses!